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I remember the first time I saw the film Wild Things, you know, the Kevin Bacon thriller where Mr. Six Degrees himself is involved in what is often euphemistically referred to as "a love triangle" with two high school hotties, either of whom might be out to do him ill (not just do him, period). Me and my girlfriend had taken the day off and decided to hit up a matinee. The theater was almost completely empty, and we took a pair of seats in the back of the postage stamp, googolplex cinema. Neve Campbell doesn't really do much for me, but who could forget hot little minx Denise Richards in her breakout role (not to mention her not-quite-so-real-looking breasts, which nevertheless deserve a best supporting nod) as a nutty, manipulative, bisexual high school trollop?  Of course, there was the, erm, climactic scene where Bacon (no pun intended), Campbell, and Richards get into a steamy, sexy, sticky (courtesy of the champagne) threesome. By the time Denise deliciously slinks out of the white cotton panties she's wearing underneath her naughty schoolgirl outfit, my hand was already up my girly's cute summer skirt. The fact that we'd enjoyed threesomes before made it all the more hot, and if that scene would have lasted any longer, the other two people in the theater might have gotten quite a show.The tryst shown in Wild Things wasn't the first Hollywood portrayal of a ménage a trios, but it is one of the sexiest and most talked about in recent times. And as themes of bisexuality and homosexuality come more and more to the forefront of American cinema, the possibility of depicting threesomes increases exponentially, as, obviously, somebody has to be playing for the other team to make one happen (whether it's two boys and a girl, or the more popular mainstream combo, two girls and a guy). But even more so than Hollywood, it's the nearby city of Chatsworth that may be even more responsible for advancing the concept of the threesome into mass consciousness. Because Chatsworth is the capitol of our most hallowed contemporary pop culture medium, porn. Now, porn as a popular art form is, in spite of some perceptions, still bound by many of the same taboos that constrict any form of expression. Porn pushes the buttons, but only a little, as it is, after all, a commercial enterprise and has to cater to mass tastes. So the aberrations of sexuality it chooses to represent as "edgy" are often only so to the sheltered.  And what the porn industry discovered is that the subject of threesomes (and in a greater sense, female bisexuality) really turned viewers, in particular the newer dynamic of couple viewers, on. Again, not that threesomes didn't happen before in older porn films, but today they're a requisite staple of most features.But what happens when the viewers try to make that magic happen on the other side of the screen? While it's perfectly natural and healthy to incorporate new situations into human sexual experience, whether as an individual or a couple, it's important to note that there's a lot more involved than just getting a couple of bimbos (or himbos) together and rolling around on an oversized bed (a crucial component of any multi-partner situation, to be sure). As much as I love porn, I'd be loathe to deny that the "characters" put forth in many productions are somewhat less than complex, emotionally or psychologically. Take the most shallow person you know, and he/she is probably much more complicated than about 99 percent of the characterizations in even the most sophisticated of porn productions. So, when you apply the whole "my girlfriend and I are looking for a romp with a hot chick" scenario to actual human beings, a lot of things can happen, to say the least. This isn't a scare piece, so I'll offer this right up front—it can be an amazing experience, one that can open up doors of sensual possibilities unattainable in one-on-one encounters. It can be an indulgent, depraved fantasy brought to joyous reality, easily eclipsing the hottest scene from any film ever made, if for just the profound effect it can have on your sexual identity. But it can also be a disaster, like three trains colliding all at once. Ever have an awkward sexual experience on a date? Well, make that a double, and then some. Bad threesomes affect many spheres of experience—sexual, social, psychological… and because a bad trio tryst falls so obviously short of the fantasy, the sense of failure among the three involved can be palpable and torturous.  The risk is particularly acute in couple situations. Simply put, relationships have been destroyed by a lot lesser things than bad threesomes. Even if the sex is great, it can be a bad threesome based on just the dynamic of the three lovers.It's hard to state how rare it is for two people to be truly sexually compatible, let alone three. What if two of the people involved "click" more sharply than with the third? If it's a couple involved, what if one is lured away by the outside partner? These things (and too many other dynamics to be mentioned here) can invoke feelings of inadequacy, bitterness, and resentment for someone who feels they didn't get as much out of a threesome as other partners. The key to a successful threesome is to look beyond it as a sexual archetype, and realize that a balance of many things must be involved. First, sexual and mental compatibility between the partners can't be overstated. It is crucial, not just during the act, but also in the often-delicate aftermath. There's no doubt that it takes a good amount of intuition to determine which three people you can throw into a room and let fuck like beasts without someone ending up feeling not so good about the situation. It also takes a huge commitment to communication, particularly in couple situations. Make sure that both partners really want a situation to happen, and that one isn't just capitulating just to make the other happy. Nothing good will come of a tryst based on this, no matter how well-intentioned. Like Mr. Roarke would tell you, it's not easy making fantasy into reality. Remember, just because it looks so easy when Vince Vouyer is stuffing Jenna doggy-style while she vigorously devours Felicia's hot little twat, these folks are pros, people. They're paid to make it look so good.
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