Valentines Day is right around the corner, and I've been informed that it's the largest time of year for sexual aides and toys for couples. They buy together, for someone they love, or even for themselves. Hey, sometimes self-love can be the best game in town!
These are just a few of the ideas that I've come up with to please you and your mate and to make those nights long and pleasurable.
A while ago, when I was talking to someone about what toys I specifically used, I told him I had a purple translucent jelly dildo - no speeds, just lifelike with the ridges and blood-vessels on it. The reason I loved this piece so much was that I could do the initial insert, but it was flexible enough for me to also pull it part-way out and stimulate my clit with it. For me, the clit is an integral part of my play, and this seemed to be the best of both worlds for me.
After a long and involved conversation, my friend recommended the Hitachi Magic Wand. Personally, like many others, I consider this the Rolls Royce of Vibrators. I purchased mine through Drugstore.com and noticed that they also had many attachments to add to the ultimate stimulation. The unit comes with two speeds built in - regular and "oh-my-god-can-I-even-handle-this" speed. I tend to use a combination of both.
One note of caution - this is such a great tool that it may ruin you for any other vibe out there! Well, that is until I get on the Sybian which is my ultimate goal! Alexia's birthday is in April, folks - remember that!
Back to my current favorite, the Hitachi Magic Wand. The basic instrument runs at about $44.99. The attachment is a G-Spotter stimulator which fits snugly and securely over the rounded head of the vibrating ball or at the end of the Hitachi. You insert the stimulator into the vaginal area for that extra g-spot pinpoint precision ($9.95). This seems to work rather well for your author.
There is also another attachment called the Wonder Wand ($9.95), which does not have the curve on it to assist in locating the g-spot. It is more for penetration with the vibration as an added benefit. This, I admit, works wonders for me as well.
Based upon my friend's recommendation, I purchased all three items. They came in plain paper wrapping so no-one knew I was purchasing sex-toys (always a plus). The unit plugs into any outlet and has a large round head so you can reach multiple areas at once. I must confess that this became an instant favorite, and I take it with me whenever I travel. Which must give the TSA fellows who check your luggage a giggle, but who the heck cares, anyway? Sex is healthy. Everyone should know that!
The next item on the list is a demo piece I was fortunate enough to receive at the AVN show in Vegas - it's called, innocuously enough, the Fukuoku Five Finger Massage Glove ($49.95 when you buy off their website).
Let me tell you, on the basis alone of a sensual body massage, it is simply one of the most erotic toys I've enjoyed. My boyfriend and I have also used it during sex, and the vibrations on my clit while he was inside me fairly sent me over the edge. I also, when fully aroused, enjoy some rough breast play, and this glove was ideal for just those purposes. I tried it myself one afternoon to see if I could get the same effect on myself, but it just didn't seem to have the powerful response-eliciting feeling. So my recommendation is to use it with a partner. And for those of you out there who prefer a left-handed glove, they make those as well. I also plan to try their other line of products. If you already have, please send along your reviews!
The glove itself is made of Lycra with vibrating attachments at each of the fingertips for spot-on vibration massage. It has a battery-pack built in, which takes three triple AAA batteries and runs off two speeds - so whatever makes you or your partner happy is just at the touch of a button.
Let's discuss Lube, because you gotta have lube on hand. Sometimes it just slickens things up for that more pleasurable experience, and sometimes lubes have additional ingredients which are designed to enhance the experience for both partners. Now, as I told you at the AVN/Internext/Bondcon shows, I am a SWAG whore. I grabbed little packets of lube from every purveyor there, and for you, my dear reader, I've been testing them out to see which ones are the best for your sensual experience.
Lube in and of itself is a fantastic invention. Eros Body Glide (not associated with www.Eros-Guide.com) has become a personal favorite for me. I am just beginning to explore all those lovely anal fantasies I've had for years, and the Eros Body Glide makes these experiments much easier on my tender entrances.
But I digress… Pjur has a female version called Pjur Woman Body Glide. I found it really really slippery. My only complaint here is that when I tried to use it in conjunction with my Hitachi Magic Wand Vibrator, I found that it was too slippery usually to hold my labia open for maximum penetration and coverage! I was unable to accomplish what I normally would have delighted in doing. That plus the handle of the Wand kept getting coated with the lube. But for sex and penetration, it ranks right up there for me. But don't get me wrong - I LOVE lube!
Your ever-so-dedicated author has researched some lube during countless hours just for you, and ended up with a favorite - ID Watermelon Water-Based Lubricating Gel, put out by xxxpresstoys. Okay, I admit, I am a watermelon freak, but this is nice, slippery, and warm once the obligatory initial "oh-my-god-that's-so-COLD" announcement has been made.
Guys (or gals), here's a subtle hint: fill a small glass with warm water and make sure you drop the lubes in them for a few minutes before use to heat them to at least body temperature.
Liquid 0 offers tiny, just-right portions of "topicly applied (to the clitoris) intimacy enhancer" as well as larger bottles for those industrial-strength gazzes! This stuff does what it says!
For those looking to add a little spice to their wardrobe, try the ultimate online purveyors of sexy clothing, Trashy.com. This site and local store in LA has long been an institution with a dedicated following. From starlets to the movie industry, many people depend on the original clothing styles found at Trashy, and we feel there'll be something just right for you and your mate as well.
Not only can they sell you something slightly risqué, but they also have some of the greatest original pieces you're likely to see. They can also work with you to make custom pieces to fit your special someone. Don't know just what she'd want? Get her a gift certificate by calling the hotline on their site, so she can shop to her heart's content and surprise you with what she feels her sexiest in!
It's important to note that Valentines Day is right around the corner, so shipping is an important consideration. Trashy has that information for you on their site with a very clear, easy to read break-down of just what it will take to get your present to your sweetheart by the special day.
So, kids, lets end on a fun note - sometimes we're not so sure how to get ourselves started down that tunnel of lovemaking. At the AVN Show, I met a woman who was selling a card game she dubiously compared to UNO. My immediate thought was of my family sitting around a Formica table shouting "UNO!!" at one another - not the most sensual of experiences. But this lovely woman, Ellen Mason, was kind enough to send me a "Deluxe Version" sample for review.
Also known by its more informal name as "The Ice Breaker," the FLAUNT IT! game comes complete with timer and two decks of cards. Each player receives cards checks the face of the cards - they're easy to read, mostly because there are no words, just graphic depictions of what each activity should be. One card is flipped over and the next person playing has to perform the activity on the card. When their turn is over, they play their card - and the next person has to complete the scene displayed. The whole idea is to make everyone comfortable, but not to get so involved in what you're doing that you forget to finish the game - so a convenient timer has been provided for you with a 10 minute limit to keep you honest. Or should you decide that you've just gotten so heated by the activities you can abandon the game and promise to play again another day! Read the rules for a more in-depth understanding, but we think you get the gist.
The makers of FLAUNT IT!, Intimate Associates, also sell t-shirts, digital timers (hmmm, wonder why) and LED Pendant/Pins. For a more complete idea into what they might have to offer you, contact them.
On a completely personal note - if you're broke this holiday, buy yourself a tube of any kind of mint gel toothpastes. Place a tiny dime-sized portion on your lover's clitoris, give it a moment to sink in and soon she'll get the impression that her body can't quite place whether or not it's a hot or cool feeling. Once she's had enough of just the sensation, go down on her and suck her clit (hey, its toothpaste - it'll taste wonderful!). She'll be clawing the roof of the ceiling like Sylvester in a Loony Toons Cartoon.
One note of caution: if you enjoy that, it is not the time to get more experimental. DO NOT GO OUT AND TRY BEN GAY or other stronger ointments. If you have questions about what will and will not work and the effects (lasting or otherwise) of many of them, we're happy to offer advice, being quite the sex aficionados ourselves:
or anyone else on our publication staff, and if we don't know we'll find out for you. But my suggestion is to stick with this toothpaste once a while. It surprised the hell out of me, and we think you - and your lover - will be mightily pleased with the results!
Happy Valentines Day! And don't forget the bed covered in rose petals - just remember - they'll stain your sheets after vigorous use on top of them! Trust me.
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