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Michael co-produces the party with Red, who in turn is co-producer of Submit, a female/TV-only sex and BDSM play party. It's heartwarming to see such open-minded sexual adventurers join forces for the greater good ... orgasms! Michael also hosts Meatpackers, "a safe sex playground," with one per month in Manhattan and another monthly in Brooklyn. CruisingforSex.com has called Meatpackers "perhaps the most satisfying sexual venue in all NYC." So he's juggling two all-male sex parties and another with mixed company. That's a lot of lube! I asked Michael how it was that he wound up as the impresario of such sexy soirees. "I got a BFA from the University of Michigan in 1985, concentrating in photography, which I still do, along with filmmaking," he told me. So what about the transition from snapshots to cum shots? "In 1993, when I wasn't getting much photo work, I had a sex party in my studio to make money," he admitted. "That started it all." His photographs have graced the covers of The Advocate, HX, Out Week and Hunt. But since this is an erotic zine, I wanted to talk to him about SPAM, play party participation and the current trend in kinky bisexuality.  EZ: Do you throw other events? Currently? In the past?MW: My first party was called He's Gotta Have It! I was arrested at that one for selling beer without a liquor license. Then came the Meatpackers and SPAM. I also had a short-lived one called Hot Dog! for young guys "curious about kink." EZ: Tell me about the original idea behind SPAM. MW: I've always wanted to do a sex party with gay men and lesbians together. It was just a matter of finding the appropriate co-host. A mutual friend hooked me up with Red. SPAM was in keeping with the theme of meat names. Bologna and Salami didn't sound like the right title for a party that had a "combination of meats." EZ: Do you consider yourself gay or bisexual? MW: Gay, with a small bi-curiosity about women. EZ: Is the party more gay or more bisexual? MW: Definitely more gay. I think we try to discourage anything that appears hetero! This is a queer party! EZ: Do you think women tend to be more bi than men? MW: In the general population, I think women are more open to that. At our parties, the bi-men outnumber the bi-women. At least based on behavior. EZ: Is there any BDSM action at Spam? MW: According to my co-promoter Red --YES! That's her area of expertise. She brings that flavor to the proceedings. So do others. It makes for a great party. And the demonstrations are spectacular! EZ: What do you think about the trend toward bisexual sex/swing parties?  MW: I think it's great! I just feel bad for the women who have to put up with the creepy guys! Men are dogs when they're at gay parties, so they think the same rules apply at a mixed party. Wrong! Bi-men can get gay sex anywhere, so when women are brought into the mix, for some, that's all they focus on.EZ: What do you think about the fetish and swing/sex worlds crossing over? MW: It's all in the mix. Since the women don't seem to have sex like the guys do, I think BDSM offers opportunities for play that are intense, without all the stuff that goes along with actual intercourse. EZ: What do you think is sexy? MW: Confidence is sexy. What I'm most attracted to are friendly eyes and an easy smile. EZ: What's the wildest thing you've seen happen at SPAM? MW: I suppose watching a girl fist another girl. Lesbians with strap-ons fucking gay guys is getting pretty boring at this point! EZ: Discuss the delicate balance between voyeurs and participants. MW: Men stand around scenes that involve women, hoping to get in on the action, so we've made a new rule that men must keep walking. No gawking. Everyone seems to be a voyeur until a scene starts and then everyone runs over. We're working to have positive group scenes, where people add energy to a scene, not take from it. And people must always ask permission before touching. We also established a room for women and the transgendered only. We may do the same for guys.  EZ: I've found that lesbians often don't care to be around men, but that's primarily straight men. How's the vibe at SPAM? Lots of mixing, if not sexually, socially? MW: The vibe at SPAM is much more social than typical gay sex parties, where guys don't talk. With men, talking before engaging in gay sex is not necessary. But with lesbians in the mix, it's very cool. That's what I like most - that people are meeting interesting people they wouldn't meet anywhere else. The sex almost becomes secondary. EZ: Any interlopers? I mean straight guys (or girls) masquerading as gay to get into the action? MW: The "Heteros Not Allowed" policy is directed more towards straight guys. We used to have a few token straights who were really cool, but we ultimately asked them not to return. We heavily monitor behavior and ask a lot of personal questions about sex. If a guy isn't playing with other guys and only watches women, we'll ask him to leave. We also get some trannie chasers. But like we say: "If you're a guy here for the women and trannies only, this is not the party for you." EZ: Any horror stories you'd care to share? MW: I was working at the front desk and needed to pee, so I used an empty orange juice container. At the end of the night I was cleaning up, and found the same container thinking it still had OJ in it. One gulp proved me wrong. EZ: Yikes! Well, actually that's pretty kinky. But usually people are drinking someone else's piss. How about happy ending stories? Love connections? MW: Like I said before, I'm meeting people I'd never have met otherwise. There are some truly sexy fun people who bring a great energy to the party -- that's ideal. And maybe one day I'll expand my own horizons and have sex with a lesbian! You can keep up on all of Michael's activities at www.WorldOfWakefield.com.
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